When “Thank You” is All You Have

One of my favorite times of the day is bedtime for the kids. Yes, they wear me out some days and, if you’re honest, your kids wear you out also. I know because there are some days that your kids wear me out, too.

Bedtime feels like the finish line, if not for the nightly chores of cleaning up the kitchen and straightening the house that follow. Leah and I let the kids decide who “gets” to put them to bed at night. Most nights our daughter chooses Leah and my son – sometimes out of pity, I think – chooses me. He’s a good boy.

Since Jack was born, bedtime prayers have been a part of our nightly process. I used to say the prayer but, as Jack has gotten older (he’s seven now), he’s taken this as his role.

Last week, Jack was saying his prayer and, after thanking God for the day, his family, his friends, the food that he ate, and “all the other blessings”, Jack paused. After a few moments, he simply said, “Lord, I don’t know what else to say tonight, except ‘Thank you’.”

When “thank you” is all that you have, “thank you” is enough.

Whether it’s in our spiritual lives, our family and career relationships, our friendships, the waiter that refills your water glass, or just that person that lets you merge in traffic, “thank you” has become, a lot of the time, implied. It needs to be explicit.

I can’t tell you how many times I heard, “What do you say?”, from my parents when I was young. They were instilling in me the importance of verbalizing my appreciation with two little words, “thank” and “you”. Those words don’t need to be replaced with a good tip or a wave of the hand or nod of the head, although there’s nothing wrong with those gestures. There are at least three things that saying “thank you” does.

1. It acknowledges the other person and their effort and sacrifice
No one likes to feel like their efforts went unnoticed. We’ve probably all been caught holding the door as a stream of people walk through it. Person after person walks through the doorway oblivious that someone else is holding the door as they pass. Someone will eventually say something like, “Didn’t know you were going to end up being the doorman today, did you?” Even when your efforts are accidental – I really didn’t mean to hold the door for 184 people – it’s still nice to hear ‘thank you’.

2. It shows your appreciation
I was at a restaurant a few years ago – one of the upscale $5 joints that I frequent for lunch – and the waiter refilled my water glass after every sip that I took. After every refill, I said “thank you”. I said it so much that I got tired of saying thank you, but when you order the cashew chicken EXTRA spicy, you need to keep the liquids flowing. I really did appreciate the service, so I kept saying it.

3. It frees your conscience and allows you to help others
Maybe it’s because my parents were such ardent supporters of saying thank you, that there have been times when I forgot – or neglected – to say thanks to someone and I felt a need to go make it right. I couldn’t leave those words unsaid. Anytime you’re dwelling on something that you should have done, you are missing the opportunity to do what you should be doing.

In a podcast earlier this summer, Dr. Kevin Elko said something that I repeat in my head almost every day. “Go be kind. If you miss, it won’t be by much.” Express your gratitude and appreciation frequently and freely. If you miss with a “thank you”, you won’t miss by much.

Don’t Go That Way!


Though my weekly mileage has decreased in the past few years, I still consider myself a runner. I try to run 3 to 6 miles at least three times a week as a way to get away from the telephone, email, Twitter, and all the other little conveniences that frazzle us with their efficiency.

A few months ago I started running again after one of my ‘breaks’. My breaks can last a few weeks or several months, and my running performance falls off sharply.

On my usual route, I take a left out of the neighborhood, then pick up the route of a local 5k run.  The route is tree lined and relatively traffic free, and I know the mileage so I’m able to watch my pace.

After a couple of weeks of running my usual route, I found myself stopping in the same spot during every run.  The spot was less than 3 miles in to the run. It wasn’t that I couldn’t physically run any further, I just stopped running (I believe the technical running term is ‘bonking’). No matter how many mental tricks I played on myself, I would stop running in the same location every time.

One Saturday morning, almost on a whim, I decided to do something that I’ve since tried in other areas of my life.  I went a different way. Instead of turning left out of the neighborhood, I turned right. I stopped running the usual path and I ran a path that I’d never run before.  I didn’t know the mileage, the terrain, or whether there were trees to shade me. I just ran.  Five miles later, I was still running.

What are your beating your head against the wall about, again, today?

Try a different path.

Einstein said that insanity was doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Stop doing what’s not working, and run a different path.

How to Attach a Photo to an iPhone Email

I know, I know.  My website does not look good, yet.  Michael Hyatt would not approve of my platform, visually speaking.  I think, however, that he would approve of the content of this post. I believe that it will have widespread appeal.

Since switching to the iPhone about 4 years ago, I have been frustrated with not knowing how to attach a photograph to an email that I had already drafted. The only way that I knew to attach a photo was to find the photo in my album and then create the email message by clicking the appropriate icon at the bottom of the screen.  That doesn’t work, however, when you are responding to an email.

This week, I was informed by a friend, Todd – who develops iPhone apps yet struggled also with the photo attaching function – that there is a way to attach a photo to an email that you’ve already started or in to a response email.  Below is the process:

1.  Tap in the body of the email.  The Select, Select All, Paste toolbar should appear on your screen.

2. At the far right of the toolbar is an arrow pointing to the right.  Tap the arrow.

3. Select, Select All, Paste turns in to an Insert Photo or Video option.

4. Tap Insert Photo or Video.  You are taken to your Camera Roll or your list of photo albums.

5. Find the photo you want to attach and then tap “Choose” in the lower right corner.

6. You will then be taken back to the email, and the photo you selected is inserted in to your email message.

It’s really not a difficult process, it’s just not very intuitive. Many thanks to Todd for sharing the solution with me, along with his long list of why he feels the Android is far superior to the iPhone. 🙂

If you have any other tips or tricks, please share.