As Big as the Ocean Blue

“We would do Birmingham a great disservice if we dreamed too-little dreams.”
Dr. Joseph Volker

Before appearing on ABC’s Shark Tank, Barbara Corcoran made Scrooge McDuck type money in New York real estate. Before being the queen of New York real estate though, she was a straight ‘D’ student.

Barbara Corcoran, in a vignette in last week’s episode, said that she was dyslexic before anyone knew what that was. “They just thought that I was dumb,” she explained, so the teachers and administrators didn’t push her too hard or spend a lot of time with her. It occurs to me that kids – and a lot of adults – today would have never made it through the 50s and 60s, but that’s probably just my opinion.

At school, as classmates were busy with lessons, Corcoran said that she sat at her desk and dreamed all day. “And it was wonderful!”

It gave her time, or better stated – she used the time, to dream. What does my life look like 5 years from now? 20 years? 50 years? Two generations from now?

I have a friend that, when I ask him what’s happening, answers “just living the dream, man, just living the dream.” By that, he means that he woke up earlier than he’d like, shaved when he didn’t want to, dressed in clothes he doesn’t feel comfortable in, and drove to a job that pays his too many bills, but offers little else. At least that’s what I hear.

It’s hard to dream as an adult. The obligations never end. If it’s not the 11 to 12 hours (or more) a day in total that is spent at the office, or in the car going to and from the office, or lying in bed reading work emails, there are practices and games and recitals and PTO meetings and it’s your Sunday to work the coffee bar and we need groceries and while you’re at the grocery store pick up a bale of hay because the 5th grader has been studying Thailand and has to build a thatch roof house by Monday.

So, as adults, we give up our dreams – assuming we ever had them – for the security of a paycheck. Because we’re adults and dreams are for children. Because we don’t think there’s a way for our dreams to ever come true.

Dr. Kevin Elko calls that living in your circumstance instead of your vision. Sour adults who gave up on their dreams, and want you to give up on your dreams also, just say that it’s reality.

I’m not sure how to wrap this up this morning. That’s the danger of trying to craft a big idea in to a 500 word post at 4:30AM. So I’ll just leave you with this song. Have a great day. Smile. Dream big.